I've read all kinds of books on spiritual abuse, but I've yet to read one on recovery. It seems that a lot of people can diagnose the problem, but no one seems to have the cure. I don't know that I've found What do you think?

That's exactly it John. What are the best ways of recovery for the Spiritually Abused?

I thought the 12-Step method would be a good one. After going through it myself, I found out that it isn't. I was the only one who admitted to being Sp Abused. I found, little support and understanding. I just didn't seem to fit. I like The 16 Steps Many Roads, One Journey, Moving Beyond the 12 Steps by Charlotte Kasl someone posted here. I think it was Mary?

Many Roads, One Journey, Moving Beyond the 12 Steps by Charlotte Kasl (16 Steps - Modified with scriptures)

1. I affirm that I have the power to take charge of my life, to learn to express my emotions and needs in a healthy way, and to identify and leave behind behaviors that no longer work for me. (...in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. -Romans 8:37)

2. God, through the Holy Spirit who dwells in me, strengthens me and leads me into the wisdom and discernment necessary for healing the wounds of the past, present, and future. (The true children of God are those who let God's Spirit lead them. -Romans 8:14)

3. I choose to be my authentic self. I choose to embrace the power of truth as an integral part of my healing process. (If you live by what I say, you are truly my disciples. You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. -John 8:31-32)

4. I choose to examine and stay aware of how my culture - family, friends, media, church, professional training - affects my beliefs and behaviors. (In this world you will have trouble, but be brave! I have defeated the world. -John 16:33)

5. I share with another human being and with God all things inside me for which I feel shame and/or guilt. (If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives. -1 John 1:9-10)

6. I affirm and enjoy my intelligence, strengths, and creativity, remembering not to hide those qualities from myself or others. (God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control. -2 Timothy 1:7)

7. I am willing to let go of shame, guilt, anger, unforgiveness, and any behavior that keeps me from loving myself and others. (Do not change yourselves to be like the people of this world, but be changed within by a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to decide what God wants for you; you will know what is good and pleasing to him and what is perfect. - Romans 12:2)

8. I will make a list of people I have harmed and people who have harmed me, and I will confess my own sin to God first and ask Him for wisdom and discernment. Then, as God leads me, I will make amends and/or share my grievances with the people on my list in a respectful and loving way. (...God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting men's sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. -2Corinthians 5:19)

9. I express love and gratitude to God and others, and I increasingly appreciate the wonder of life and the blessings I do have. (I will praise you, O LORD, with all my heart; I will tell of all your wonders. I will be glad and rejoice in you; I will sing praise to your name, O Most High. -Psalm 9:1-2)

10. I learn to trust my reality and I daily affirm that I see what I see, I know what I know, and I feel what I feel. (Your eyes are windows into your body. If you open your eyes wide in wonder and belief, your body fills up with light. If you live squinty-eyed in greed and distrust, your body is a dank cellar. If you pull the blinds on your windows, what a dark life you will have! -Matt 6:22-23)

11. I promptly admit to mistakes and make amends when appropriate, but I do not say I am sorry for things I have not done, and I do not cover-up, analyze, or take responsibility for the shortcomings of others. (Don't you realize that all of you together are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God lives in you? God will bring ruin upon anyone who ruins this temple. For God's temple is holy, and you Christians are that temple. -1 Corinthians 3:16-17)

12. I seek out situations, jobs, and people that affirm my intelligence, perceptions, and self-worth. I avoid situations or people who are hurtful, harmful, or demeaning to me. (There are "friends" who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother. -Proverbs 18:24)

13. I take steps to heal my physical body, organize my life, reduce stress, and have fun. (God gives wisdom, knowledge, and joy to those who please him. -Ecclesiastes 2:26)

14. I seek to understand my calling and I daily ask God for the strength, wisdom, and discernment to walk in it. (Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don't be impressed with yourself. Don't compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life. Be very sure now, you who have been trained to a self-sufficient maturity, that you enter into a generous common life with those who have trained you, sharing all the good things that you have and experience. -Galatians 6:3-5)

15. I accept the ups and downs of life as gifts that can be used as lessons for my growth. (...whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. 3For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character and ready for anything. -James 1:2-4)

16. I grow in awareness that I am a sacred being, interrelated with all living things, and I contribute to restoring peace, love, mercy, grace, and balance in my family, my neighborhood, my social circle, my church, my city, my state, my country, and the world. (Go into all the world and preach the Good News to everyone, everywhere.-Mark 16:15)

If these could be put into booklet form similar to the way Saddleback has in their Celebrate Recovery program. They have taken the 12 Steps and broken them down into 4 booklets that small groups go through answering the questions in it and sharing the answers in a regular weekly meeting similar to the 12 Steps. This would be specifically for the Spiritually Abused.

It is only when we can share our stories and experiences with others that do understand, do we feel supported in our internal struggles. There seems to be such little understanding of this in established churches. A few acknowledge the problem but no one seems to have an active program to address the issue. Lip service is about all you'll get with little understanding. It's like the churches are in denial about the problem & it's implications.